On Awareness and Udaari

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WARNING: SPOILER ALERT, but important highlights of what the show brings up, if you want to know what it’s about…

In only 5 episodes so far, the drama serial Udaari  (on Hum TV) has very tastefully highlighted major issues plaguing our society:

  • Started off by showing that men shouldn’t care what people think, that there shouldn’t be stigma attached to marrying a widowed woman with children, and that it’s okay for a widow to remarry.  (Though that didn’t exactly turn out well, because the guy was worse than a major creep.)
  • Showed that just because a women uses singing/dancing as a source of income, doesn’t automatically mean she’s welcoming your indecent advances, or that it is okay to disrespect her, or to force yourself on her.
  • It showed a mother believing her daughter, when she rightfully accused a ‘trusted’ neighbor of attempted rape. There was no victim blaming.When it came to this, the girl was not judged and blamed based on her past record of being in a relationship (despite society often doing such unfair things). Her family didn’t tell her she was ‘Asking for it.’ Which is how it should be. Victims are never asking for it.
  • It shows that a predator can be anyone. Even someone who pretends to be kind and loving, someone who has gained your trust. Just because they’re monsters, doesn’t mean they have to look the part. You need to watch out for those sick people.

And one of the most important things: 

  • It highlights and creates awareness about the issue of Child Sexual Abuse. This is super important, because this crime is facilitated by lack of awareness, or ‘innocence’. Kids don’t understand what is happening to them, they often don’t realize it’s bad, they don’t know they’re supposed to report it. And that’s why the predators mostly get away with it. Parents need to take this show as a reminder to educate their children, and I assure you, that can be done without ruining their innocence. They don’t need to know the details. They need to know what kind of touching is inappropriate. Tell them to let you know if anyone ever makes you uncomfortable. Kids have intuition too. (Baat Karo is another project creating awareness, and the stories there show how important it is for kids to be protected and how important awareness is and how victim blaming needs to stop.)

 

Why would people report it? Why would PEMRA send a notice? There has been stuff on television that has been much more inappropriate and graphic. If these issues; especially the child abuse, makes you uncomfortable, it’s because it’s a bitter truth, and something rampant in our society. It needs to be stopped. Not ignored. Quit being in denial. Remember Kasur. Watch Udaari. Baat Karo.

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